What to consider before playing golf with someone you love?
Another thing to consider before golfing with someone you love—especially someone who has been golfing for a long time before you started playing—is the inevitable power dynamics that go on in a round of golf.
Can you play golf with a stranger?
The first time you golf with someone who you think you know really well, don’t be surprised if by the third hole you feel like you’re playing with a complete stranger. But before you start looking for the zipper to their human suit, take a minute to understand that golf has a ridiculous way of bringing all sorts of repressed personality traits out of a person that a night of binging Stranger Things and ordering in takeout never would.
Can you show a golfer up with your short game?
On the other hand, you might come to find that , though he can drive farther than you can even imagine, you might show him up with your short game. Because golf can often be just as personal of a game as a social one, it can be hard to golf with people who do things differently or have a hard time remembering that golf is just a game.
Is one side equally matched with the other?
But just like in all relationships, no one side is as equally matched as the other. You will be good at things he isn’t and he will be good at things you’re not. As long as you both approach the differences with a positive attitude, you might learn something from each other and about yourselves.
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How many of you have broken up with their girlfriend/wife/fiance over the game?
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I don't think you are bad. You only have one life to live and there's no reason to not live it the way you want to. The fact of the matter is, you haven't found the right girl yet. Your partner should not hinder your life. You'll find someone who matches your lifestyle.
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To answer your question...it all becomes a matter of priorities. What's your priority and what's more important to you? Obviously in these instances, golf has taken priority.
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Find a girl that is a golfer, all will be good .. or a girl that is very independent and has no issues doing her own things There are girls that want to spend 24/7 with their guy and that can be TAXING on any sane male Your golf obsession with also abate a little as you age and you'll find a balance that works for you and your significant other
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Boy do I know this avenue....SilverBullets hit the nail on the head. I played on mini tours for 3 years, and logged 150 rounds a year annually, plus another 30 hours of practice per week. When I found my wife, my rounds decreased, because I loved spending time with her. And now I have 2 daughters.
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First, if you would rather spend time doing other activities than spending time with the person you are in a relationship with... that is a sign you probably shouldn't be in the relationship. I'm in the early stages right now but I really hit the jackpot with someone that CALLS ME when she wants to play golf (which is weekly).
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I think it helps to be up front about the obsession.
Lonely one
Are there any ladies out there that are going through something similar? I could really use some advice on how to save my marriage.
Lonely one
Yes, I discussed it several times, including at dinner last night but he took it the wrong way or something to where we argued. I feel if he was to put as much time in our marriage like he does golf then we would be in a better place, I just want my husband back.
Patch
Well, not being a marriage counseler myself, the OP has limited choices since the husband has made golf his priority, over his wife.
Lonely one
I just want say Thank you all very much for your advice, I greatly appreciate it. He's at golf as we speak, I had tears in my eyes when I expressed my feelings to him at dinner but I just don't think he gets it, he straight up told me that he's not going to stop playing- nor do I want him to, I know golf is a relaxing sport for men, I get it.
colin007
Marriage counseling is also a great idea, thank you all again very much!!
Sandy Divot
I know this will sound harsh, but walk away. He's made his choices known. In the long run you both will be much happier.
